Saying Thank You Has Its Own Rewards. Saying thank you—it's a small moment with big ripples. Reviewed by Michelle Quirk

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KEY POINTS-

  • You may feel seen and appreciated when someone says thank you to you.
  • Saying thank you is a token of your appreciation for the larger whole, joining you with that whole.
  • It's hard to give thanks if you're uncomfortable acknowledging that you have received something.
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What do you feel when someone thanks you for something—for a comment in a meeting, a task done at home, an extra step taken, or an encouraging word?

You probably feel seen and appreciated, and that you matter to the other person. Maybe a little startled, maybe wondering if you really deserve it, but also glad. Personally, this is how it is for me.

 

Turning it around, when you say "thank you" to someone, it is a small moment with big ripples: a confirmation of the deep and wonderful truth that we all depend on each other, that we are all joined—across dinner tables and the world—in a web whose threads are innumerable acts of giving.

For example, often when I eat a meal, I’ll take a moment to imagine the details of how that tomato or rice was grown and then transported onto my plate, including the people who walked the fields to plant and eventually pick it, and the man or woman who drove the truck that carried it to the store where I bought it. Those folks do not know me, but they’re real people, working hard, hoping for a good life, worrying about the people they love, extending themselves in their jobs, giving me something extra, all this woven into the food that’s entering my blood, my bones: thank you.

 

You can’t possibly say thank you for everything you're given. No one can. So, when you do say thanks, it’s a token of your appreciation for the larger whole, joining you with that whole. It will make you happy to open to the giving coming your way each day.

And in giving thanks to the people in your life, you open the door to receiving their thanks in turn. In your home or company, a nice circle, a step toward a culture of gratitude.

 

The Practice

For starters, it's hard to give thanks if you're uncomfortable acknowledging that you have received something. Perhaps you don't want to feel indebted or don't want to look needy. Maybe it's simply embarrassing. These feelings are normal—but they can sure get in the way of being thankful.

 

To deal with them, begin by naming them to yourself: squirmy...embarrassed...resentful...awkward...don’t want to owe anyone anything.... Hold them in a big open space of awareness, like dark clouds in a vast sky. Don’t fight them, but gently move your attention away from them, back to your breathing and to a basic sense of being alright as a body...bringing to mind a sense of being cared about by someone...recognizing some of your good intentions in life...knowing one or more benefits to you of saying thanks...knowing what the other person has given you...feeling a simple sense of appreciation...feeling that it’s alright to be thankful...making it OK in your mind to express thanks.

 

And then be straightforward and simple and say "Thank you" in whatever way is natural.

Many thank yous involve little things in the flow of life, like thanking someone for passing the salt at dinner. Let these small moments matter to you. Feel your thanks in your chest and throat. When you say your thanks, try to let it show in your eyes. Life is made up of moments, beads on a golden chain; what are you stringing together? As they say in Tibet: "If you take care of the minutes, the years will take care of themselves."

 

Also, consider where you might have a backlog of thanks, perhaps for some big things like saying thanks to your parents or other relatives, to old friends and new ones, to teachers and coaches of all kinds. Thanks to lovers and mates, children, pets, neighbors—even people you have never met, even the whole natural world. A wonderful and powerful practice is to make a list of people you want to thank directly and then gradually move through the list. You can also certainly offer thanks in your imagination, such as to people who are no longer living, to people far away, to groups of people, to specific animals or nature in general, or spiritual beings or forces if that is meaningful to you.

Throughout, it is very sweet to be thankful for the opportunity to give thanks.

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