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  • 3 Myths About Love to Let Go of as You Grow Up.
    Sometimes, a bit of disillusionment is helpful for us when it comes to love.
    Reviewed by Davia Sills

    KEY POINTS-
    Everyone deserves to have an authentic and healthy experience of love.
    Sometimes, distorted representations of love that people see in their youth can negatively affect their adult relationships.
    Letting go of these common misconceptions will help people to develop healthier and happier long-term bonds.

    Many people come to therapy distressed when the rose-tinted glasses through which they once viewed love begin to crack. They say things like:

    “I always wanted the fairytale, but the dating scene is the exact opposite. How come no one prepared me for this?”
    “Love has always been this pure and ecstatic thing for me. But, lately, it’s been getting more and more messy. Was I wrong this whole time?”
    “What if I never find my soulmate? I don’t ever want to settle for anyone but my twin flame.”
    We are inundated with all kinds of narratives and representations of love from a young age. No wonder our idea of what love should look and feel like can be muddled and manufactured. The truth is that all of us get to define what love means for ourselves.

    We all deserve to have an authentic experience of love. Misrepresentations of it can lead us away from what we really want. Here are three myths about love you might need to unlearn, according to mental health research.

    1. Opposite poles attract.
    The typical rom-com scenario of two diametrically opposed individuals falling in love with each other and living "happily ever after" is statistically inaccurate, according to research published in Personality and Individual Differences.

    This does not mean that different people cannot fall in love with each other; it simply means that the differences aren’t the reason for their bond. The simple, boring truth is that similarity and compatibility in values and priorities are what ensure a long and satisfying relationship.

    Then what is it that makes us choose partners so different from us? There are two possible reasons, according to researchers Zsófia Csajbók and Peter Jonason:

    Yin-yang thinking: This is a thought process that mistakes the volatility of an "opposites" relationship for love. While the differences could add to the drama and spice in your relationship, they might never give you the peace, comfort, or security that love should ensure.
    Childhood experiences: People who are attracted to the "opposites attract" school might be emulating relationships they saw when growing up—such as having extremely dissimilar parents.

    2. The teen fantasy
    You might cringe at popular teenage media like Twilight and Wattpad fanfiction now, but most of us have had our fair share of problematic teen fantasies growing up. But what if these obsolete fantasies were still insidiously influencing our adult relationships?

    A study published in the Journal of Couple and Relationship Therapy that examined teenagers’ "relationship cognitions" explained that adolescents, mostly boys, can sometimes have highly risky ways of viewing and thinking about relationships. These include believing in "blind love," i.e., thinking that feelings of love alone are enough to sustain a relationship, sliding into new relationships instead of pacing themselves, and even being tolerant towards controlling behaviors like manipulation and abuse.

    It’s important to look inward and understand whether the way you view your relationships is problematic and possibly being informed by your teenage self.

    We cannot blame our younger selves for not knowing better. However, if we do not address the root of the issue, we might end up following the template well into adulthood.

    3. Till death do us part
    This one might be especially painful for the ones still rooting for Taylor Swift and Joe Alwyn. Relationships, even the most beautiful and loving ones, may not last forever. And even when they do, the dynamic of the relationship can change dramatically.

    For instance, people may not want to live together or stay monogamous anymore in their marriage or long-term relationship. While changes like these might be uncomfortable to make or even consider, they can ultimately feel most liberating and authentic.

    NYU professor and researcher Zhana Vrangalova explains that the urge to "open up" your relationship to a non-monogamous arrangement does not necessarily signal the end of love. In fact, it could mean that both partners love and trust each other enough to experiment with novelty.

    Love should be what you want it to be. However, it is undeniably complex and dynamic. Tying yourself down to a one-dimensional image in your head that has no room for you or your partner’s desires may burn your relationship out.

    Conclusion
    Your perception of love needs to grow and change with you. Getting fixated on a specific idea of love, especially if it’s not yours, can lead to a world of hurt. It is in your self-interest to communicate your deepest desires and be completely transparent in your relationship to ensure a bond that stands the test of time.
    3 Myths About Love to Let Go of as You Grow Up. Sometimes, a bit of disillusionment is helpful for us when it comes to love. Reviewed by Davia Sills KEY POINTS- Everyone deserves to have an authentic and healthy experience of love. Sometimes, distorted representations of love that people see in their youth can negatively affect their adult relationships. Letting go of these common misconceptions will help people to develop healthier and happier long-term bonds. Many people come to therapy distressed when the rose-tinted glasses through which they once viewed love begin to crack. They say things like: “I always wanted the fairytale, but the dating scene is the exact opposite. How come no one prepared me for this?” “Love has always been this pure and ecstatic thing for me. But, lately, it’s been getting more and more messy. Was I wrong this whole time?” “What if I never find my soulmate? I don’t ever want to settle for anyone but my twin flame.” We are inundated with all kinds of narratives and representations of love from a young age. No wonder our idea of what love should look and feel like can be muddled and manufactured. The truth is that all of us get to define what love means for ourselves. We all deserve to have an authentic experience of love. Misrepresentations of it can lead us away from what we really want. Here are three myths about love you might need to unlearn, according to mental health research. 1. Opposite poles attract. The typical rom-com scenario of two diametrically opposed individuals falling in love with each other and living "happily ever after" is statistically inaccurate, according to research published in Personality and Individual Differences. This does not mean that different people cannot fall in love with each other; it simply means that the differences aren’t the reason for their bond. The simple, boring truth is that similarity and compatibility in values and priorities are what ensure a long and satisfying relationship. Then what is it that makes us choose partners so different from us? There are two possible reasons, according to researchers Zsófia Csajbók and Peter Jonason: Yin-yang thinking: This is a thought process that mistakes the volatility of an "opposites" relationship for love. While the differences could add to the drama and spice in your relationship, they might never give you the peace, comfort, or security that love should ensure. Childhood experiences: People who are attracted to the "opposites attract" school might be emulating relationships they saw when growing up—such as having extremely dissimilar parents. 2. The teen fantasy You might cringe at popular teenage media like Twilight and Wattpad fanfiction now, but most of us have had our fair share of problematic teen fantasies growing up. But what if these obsolete fantasies were still insidiously influencing our adult relationships? A study published in the Journal of Couple and Relationship Therapy that examined teenagers’ "relationship cognitions" explained that adolescents, mostly boys, can sometimes have highly risky ways of viewing and thinking about relationships. These include believing in "blind love," i.e., thinking that feelings of love alone are enough to sustain a relationship, sliding into new relationships instead of pacing themselves, and even being tolerant towards controlling behaviors like manipulation and abuse. It’s important to look inward and understand whether the way you view your relationships is problematic and possibly being informed by your teenage self. We cannot blame our younger selves for not knowing better. However, if we do not address the root of the issue, we might end up following the template well into adulthood. 3. Till death do us part This one might be especially painful for the ones still rooting for Taylor Swift and Joe Alwyn. Relationships, even the most beautiful and loving ones, may not last forever. And even when they do, the dynamic of the relationship can change dramatically. For instance, people may not want to live together or stay monogamous anymore in their marriage or long-term relationship. While changes like these might be uncomfortable to make or even consider, they can ultimately feel most liberating and authentic. NYU professor and researcher Zhana Vrangalova explains that the urge to "open up" your relationship to a non-monogamous arrangement does not necessarily signal the end of love. In fact, it could mean that both partners love and trust each other enough to experiment with novelty. Love should be what you want it to be. However, it is undeniably complex and dynamic. Tying yourself down to a one-dimensional image in your head that has no room for you or your partner’s desires may burn your relationship out. Conclusion Your perception of love needs to grow and change with you. Getting fixated on a specific idea of love, especially if it’s not yours, can lead to a world of hurt. It is in your self-interest to communicate your deepest desires and be completely transparent in your relationship to ensure a bond that stands the test of time.
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  • The Urgency for Love as a Healing Force.
    How indifference is limiting the future of health care.
    Reviewed by Michelle Quirk

    KEY POINTS-
    Most of us agree that love is important for healing, though it is largely ignored in scientific research.
    Loneliness, isolation, and warfare are contributing to record levels of anxiety and depression worldwide.
    An attitude of curiosity and urgency could explode the potential of love as a healing force.

    Love. We all talk about it, but how much do we really understand this mysterious force field?

    We refer to love frequently in poetry, religion, and mysticism. “The universe would disappear without the existence of the force [of love],” said Gandhi. When the Beatles released “All You Need Is Love,” more than 400 million people in 25 countries watched via live satellite and raised their glasses in a resounding “hell, yeah.” So there’s no disputing its fundamental importance.

    Today's Experience of "Non-Love"
    Yet, it’s also clear that "non-love" is a dominant experience today: Loneliness is more prevalent than connectedness, and the longer-term effects of global lockdowns and enforced isolation are only just starting to emerge. Take a look at the most recent statistics in PubMed where new cases of anxiety and depression are documented, and you’ll understand why psychotherapists' and psychiatrists’ schedules are fully booked. Consider the incline in suicide and divorce rates, not to mention warfare in recent years. Even the climate crisis may have its roots in a deficit of love.

    It’s not that we don’t share a sense of collective urgency about resolving these situations. However, because we don't know how to measure love specifically, or diagnose “not-love” so that we can prescribe remedies, we don’t know how to get down to the originating cause. This leaves us shuffling the best cosmetic solutions we can find.

    This is simply because we don't have an adequate understanding about the true nature of love as a healing force. Beyond romantic love and attraction, it gets left out of scientific and medical discourse. Apart from a few courageous explorers of love as a transformational field, it is generally overlooked by the experts. We don't pay attention to it; we don't try and measure it; in scientific research, we're not even curious about it.

    What creates such indifference? By holding this question throughout recent years as we have been developing Heart Based Medicine, I have become aware of how much the disposition of being an expert gets in the way, particularly in a white male mind like mine. A part of all of us wants to be an expert, and leaning into things that we don't understand can make us uncomfortable. Yet, the capacity to explore and acknowledge things we don't know about opens the possibility of intelligent, creative, generative conversations.

    Let’s look at an instructive example: The Black Death, which primarily affected Europe and the Middle East from 1346 to 1353, was the most fatal pandemic in human history. It killed somewhere between 75 and 200 million people, wiping out 30 to 60 percent of the European population and about a third of the Middle East. It reduced the world population from 475 million to about 350 million in just seven years, taking until 1500 to get back to the same pre-plague levels.

    Faced with the magnitude of this health crisis, the world was gripped by a tremendous sense of urgency, but without having an accurate and comprehensive system to understand the origins and to address the catastrophe. There was an intuitive sense of the nature of infection, without yet understanding the mechanics. Transmission was attributed to smells, so gowns and masks were worn for protection. There was no microscope or other direct way to measure bacteria and no one had even considered antibiotics back then.

    Open-Minded Curiosity
    Centuries later, we now know that the plague was caused by the bacterium Yersinia pestis. This knowledge was the result of open-minded curiosity, and the willingness by scientists to acknowledge that there was something present that they didn’t yet fully understand. The enquiry took rigorous questioning of previously held assumptions. It then took decades of piecemeal science before we shifted from a medieval view of infectious disease to our modern scientific view that allows us to deal with bacterial infection.

    This approach is the opposite of, and the antidote to, the arrogance of expertise. The expert leans into what she thinks she knows, while the inquisitive explorer has the humility to be curious about what she doesn’t know.

    When Antonie van Leeuwenhoek came up with the first microscope in the 17th century, he amplified the capacity of our eyes in such a way that we could see things we had not seen before. That could be a useful clue here. To embrace love as a healing force, it may not be the eyes but the heart that you want to see through. Your heart has the capacity to experience and to know things. It may well be that, by learning to amplify the messages that come from the heart, we will be able to develop coherent diagnostic tests for not-love as well as a prescriptive attitude toward love.

    Humility and an open-minded disposition may finally lead us beyond the limited view of seeing love as the byproduct of human thought, emotion, and action. Maybe one day we will come to recognize scientifically what most people already know intuitively: that love is a universal generative healing force available to us all.

    I would suggest that what is needed today—more than anything else—is to bring the same open-minded curiosity to the nature of love that Pasteur and Koch brought to infection. If our greatest minds were fueled and funded by that same degree of urgency and tasked with discovering the potential of love as a transformational field, imagine what the effects might be on health care and society.
    The Urgency for Love as a Healing Force. How indifference is limiting the future of health care. Reviewed by Michelle Quirk KEY POINTS- Most of us agree that love is important for healing, though it is largely ignored in scientific research. Loneliness, isolation, and warfare are contributing to record levels of anxiety and depression worldwide. An attitude of curiosity and urgency could explode the potential of love as a healing force. Love. We all talk about it, but how much do we really understand this mysterious force field? We refer to love frequently in poetry, religion, and mysticism. “The universe would disappear without the existence of the force [of love],” said Gandhi. When the Beatles released “All You Need Is Love,” more than 400 million people in 25 countries watched via live satellite and raised their glasses in a resounding “hell, yeah.” So there’s no disputing its fundamental importance. Today's Experience of "Non-Love" Yet, it’s also clear that "non-love" is a dominant experience today: Loneliness is more prevalent than connectedness, and the longer-term effects of global lockdowns and enforced isolation are only just starting to emerge. Take a look at the most recent statistics in PubMed where new cases of anxiety and depression are documented, and you’ll understand why psychotherapists' and psychiatrists’ schedules are fully booked. Consider the incline in suicide and divorce rates, not to mention warfare in recent years. Even the climate crisis may have its roots in a deficit of love. It’s not that we don’t share a sense of collective urgency about resolving these situations. However, because we don't know how to measure love specifically, or diagnose “not-love” so that we can prescribe remedies, we don’t know how to get down to the originating cause. This leaves us shuffling the best cosmetic solutions we can find. This is simply because we don't have an adequate understanding about the true nature of love as a healing force. Beyond romantic love and attraction, it gets left out of scientific and medical discourse. Apart from a few courageous explorers of love as a transformational field, it is generally overlooked by the experts. We don't pay attention to it; we don't try and measure it; in scientific research, we're not even curious about it. What creates such indifference? By holding this question throughout recent years as we have been developing Heart Based Medicine, I have become aware of how much the disposition of being an expert gets in the way, particularly in a white male mind like mine. A part of all of us wants to be an expert, and leaning into things that we don't understand can make us uncomfortable. Yet, the capacity to explore and acknowledge things we don't know about opens the possibility of intelligent, creative, generative conversations. Let’s look at an instructive example: The Black Death, which primarily affected Europe and the Middle East from 1346 to 1353, was the most fatal pandemic in human history. It killed somewhere between 75 and 200 million people, wiping out 30 to 60 percent of the European population and about a third of the Middle East. It reduced the world population from 475 million to about 350 million in just seven years, taking until 1500 to get back to the same pre-plague levels. Faced with the magnitude of this health crisis, the world was gripped by a tremendous sense of urgency, but without having an accurate and comprehensive system to understand the origins and to address the catastrophe. There was an intuitive sense of the nature of infection, without yet understanding the mechanics. Transmission was attributed to smells, so gowns and masks were worn for protection. There was no microscope or other direct way to measure bacteria and no one had even considered antibiotics back then. Open-Minded Curiosity Centuries later, we now know that the plague was caused by the bacterium Yersinia pestis. This knowledge was the result of open-minded curiosity, and the willingness by scientists to acknowledge that there was something present that they didn’t yet fully understand. The enquiry took rigorous questioning of previously held assumptions. It then took decades of piecemeal science before we shifted from a medieval view of infectious disease to our modern scientific view that allows us to deal with bacterial infection. This approach is the opposite of, and the antidote to, the arrogance of expertise. The expert leans into what she thinks she knows, while the inquisitive explorer has the humility to be curious about what she doesn’t know. When Antonie van Leeuwenhoek came up with the first microscope in the 17th century, he amplified the capacity of our eyes in such a way that we could see things we had not seen before. That could be a useful clue here. To embrace love as a healing force, it may not be the eyes but the heart that you want to see through. Your heart has the capacity to experience and to know things. It may well be that, by learning to amplify the messages that come from the heart, we will be able to develop coherent diagnostic tests for not-love as well as a prescriptive attitude toward love. Humility and an open-minded disposition may finally lead us beyond the limited view of seeing love as the byproduct of human thought, emotion, and action. Maybe one day we will come to recognize scientifically what most people already know intuitively: that love is a universal generative healing force available to us all. I would suggest that what is needed today—more than anything else—is to bring the same open-minded curiosity to the nature of love that Pasteur and Koch brought to infection. If our greatest minds were fueled and funded by that same degree of urgency and tasked with discovering the potential of love as a transformational field, imagine what the effects might be on health care and society.
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